I was gone for two days this past weekend. I could hear Girl ramping up her feelings - "This is the last time I'll see you," for example. As a good attachment mom, I reassured best as I could. Not surprisingly, she had an emotional meltdown within a few hours of my return on Sunday. I am totally used to this with my oldest, so I was ready. What I was NOT ready for, however, was her waterfall of honesty. She confirmed many things we had suspected but could not get her to admit. She wishes she were "normal." As in, didn't have this mixed up family situation. Her behavior is always about making people happy. She will say what she thinks people want to hear, she will do things she thinks people want her to do, so they stay happy. And therefore, like her. Buying her things is how people show they love her. She wants to avoid yelling at all costs. She will do whatever needs doing so she doesn't get yelled at. Yelling scares her, although she doesn'
June 11 marked one year since the kiddos moved in with us. During a visit with Girl's therapist, the three of us reflected on how things have changed & improved in that year. It really is amazing. Little Boy: Used to only communicate with about 2 words & screams. Clung to Sissy but liked us for entertainment. Went to sleep almost *too* well - never fussed, never called for anyone when he woke, slept for hours at a stretch. Clearly his escape. Now? Talks constantly even when we can't understand him. Screams when rightfully upset or frustrated. Gives boys as much attention (or more, some days) as Sissy. Comes to Doug and I when hurt or needs comfort. Loves to cuddle with us. Fights his naps. :) Acts appropriately when exploring new places, using us as his familiar point. Girl: Was clingy, behaved only to please, parented Little Boy, avoided all emotions except the occasional huge cry. Did not trust Doug or I to keep her safe or comfort her. Now? The clinginess is w